I recently came across a passage that opened my eyes to the realization that I have been allowing agonizing thoughts to occupy valuable space in my mind. 4 Things you can’t get back: The stone after it’s thrown. The word after it’s said. The occasion after it’s missed. The time after it’s gone.” You see, I have had a hard time letting go of mistakes and regrets I’ve made over my life. So entering this new year, I want to let those missteps go.

About ten years ago, when I was younger and naive, I was promoted and was given a moderate pay raise. I eagerly jumped at the new opportunity and accepted the pay raise. I soon realized that I could have negotiated a more significant increase in pay. I stayed with the company another two years and eventually moved on to greener pastures. However, every time I drive past my old employer, I kick myself over, not knowing my worth at the time in my life.
And then there was the time I spent a year with a woman that I invested time and energy into only to come to the realization she was wasting my time. Every time I would cross paths with her, I would think about how that year with her, I could have spent doing something more productive with my life. I finally decided to change the way I think about and view my mistakes. When I ‘m driving past my former employer, I remember I am earning more and how much I enjoy my current job, and when I see that ex-girlfriend of mine, I think “that’s someone else’s problem now.” As we enter this new year and decade, I hope that we can take those misfortunes to learn from them, grow from them, and leave them in 2019.

Lastly, in regards to New Year’s resolutions, I ask, do we really need them? What’s the point of setting all these intentions and making all these promises to yourself and then spending the year worrying that you won’t accomplish it all? The alternative is simple: Do what makes you happy. Wake up every day to do something that brings joy to your life. Book that trip, treat yourself to something nice, experience something new for the first time, the choices are endless.

The New Year is upon us, and with it comes the promise of new beginnings.


John Waites
A veteran who is passionate about inspiring others through travel and art, sharing ideas for personal growth and fulfilment.

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  1. Looking forward to new beginnings. Always enjoy reading your blogs.

    1. Thank you ao much Pam!

  2. Love and miss you..glad your life is is going the way you want. Blessings

    1. Miss you too! Hope all is well

  3. I agree with traveling and enjoying life because it’s short. What is more important is to remember life does get hard, however, there is life eternity with Jesus when you believe. Life isn’t about us, it’s about others. Traveling the world and helping others is fulfillment in life.

    1. Thank you!

  4. Sherm, you always amaze me with your awesome philosophies and beliefs of life. This post is very personalized for ME (LOL!) and for some reason…you made those goosebumps appear. You hit the nail on the head. Your passion and talent¬†to visualize the unseen beauty are by far modest. Your literature is very delicious and keeps my brain hungered for more. Be you! I am proud of you my friend!

    1. Thank you so much Kyra for supporting me on this. I really appreciate it!

  5. Bro very nicely put and well said Happy New Year

    1. Happy New Year Bro!

  6. Happy New Year Sherman! You are exactly right. Too many times I have set myself up with an expectation that sounded good at one particular time, only to realize that it wasn’t really what I wanted or needed then or now. Lol. Life is funny. I’ve heard many times over the years that in life, it’s not what happens to you but more so how you handle it. My first trip out of the country really opened my eyes to realize that there is so much out there that I haven’t seen and that I deserved to venture out and see it. Thanks so much for sharing your stories. It’s my pleasure to call you a friend. Keep up the good work. You Rock!

    1. Very kind of you WaWa! So happy to call you my friend also!

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