5 Things I Learned in 2023

As 2023 draws to a close, it’s natural to reflect on the past 12 months and take stock of what we’ve learned. For many of us, 2023 was a year of growth, change, and unexpected challenges. As we look towards the future, we must carry these lessons with us and use them to shape our lives in the years to come. In this blog, I’ll share the top five things I learned in 2023 – from the power of letting go to the importance of setting boundaries. These insights have helped me navigate the ups and downs of the past year, and I hope they can do the same for you. So please sit back and join me as I reflect on the lessons that 2023 has taught me.


Be valuable, not available.
As individuals, we often feel the need to be available to others constantly. However, it’s important to remember that our time and energy are valuable resources that should be respected. It’s okay to set boundaries and prioritize our well-being. Doing so can improve our mental health, increase productivity, and lead a more fulfilling life. Remember, being valuable doesn’t mean being constantly available.

Don’t take advice from people with no experience in whatever you are trying to do.
When pursuing our goals and dreams, seeking advice from others can be helpful. However, being selective about who we take advice from is essential. Only take advice from people with experience in what you are trying to do. While they may have good intentions, their lack of knowledge could lead to misguided advice hindering your progress. Instead, seek guidance from those who have already achieved what you are striving for. These individuals can share their insights, lessons learned, and strategies for success based on their own experiences. By learning from those who have already been where we want to go, we can increase our chances of success and avoid unnecessary obstacles. So, be mindful of who you take advice from and seek out mentors who can guide you towards your desired outcome.

But the thing is, even if I could go back, I wouldn’t belong there anymore.

Inhale the future. Exhale the past
The phrase “inhale the future, exhale the past” speaks volumes about the power of letting go. Getting caught up in past experiences and the pain they bring is easy, but doing so only limits our potential for growth and happiness. Focusing on the future, however, allows us to move forward with hope and optimism. By taking a deep breath and consciously exhaling the past, we create space for new beginnings and possibilities. Letting go of the past can be a challenging and ongoing process, but it’s essential for our well-being. So, take a moment to inhale the future and exhale the past. Trust that you are opening yourself up to new opportunities, experiences, and a brighter tomorrow with each breath.

Think about the end at the beginning.
As we go through life, we often find ourselves caught up in the moment, focusing on the present and immediate future. However, it’s crucial to take a step back and think about the end at the beginning. This means considering the outcome we want to achieve and planning a path to reach that goal. Whether it’s our career, relationships, or personal development, having a clear end goal can help us make better decisions and take actions that align with our long-term vision. By visualizing the result, we can stay motivated, focused, and on track toward achieving our desired outcome. So, please take a moment to think about where you want to be in the future and start taking steps toward making it a reality.

Give what you get.
It’s easy to fall into the trap of giving more than we receive, whether in relationships, friendships, or even work environments. However, it’s important to remember that our energy and time are valuable resources that should be respected and reciprocated. This is where the concept of “give what you get” comes in. By putting the same energy into people that they put into us, we create a healthier and more fulfilling dynamic. We no longer have to give someone 100% when they only give back a portion of that. This change in mindset can lead to more balanced relationships, increased self-worth, and, ultimately, a happier life. So, the next time you find yourself giving more than you’re receiving, remember to give what you get and watch your relationships and life transform for the better.

John Waites
A veteran who is passionate about inspiring others through travel and art, sharing ideas for personal growth and fulfilment.

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  1. I am astounded.

  2. I freaking love this blog!! So many important things to think about and shift the mindset! Well done!

    1. Thank you so much!!

  3. So many good reads. ❤️🤞🏾

    1. Thank you for your support!

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